Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

What if I want to mediate but the other person doesn’t?

There are many reasons why people may resist mediation.  Most people have never mediated before, and may be reluctant to choose an unfamiliar process.  Some people believe they will do better in court, and prefer to take their chances there.   If you are the person who wants to mediate, do not put pressure on the other person.  Instead, focus on why you want to mediate, and try to be curious about what might be holding the other person back.  For mediation to work well, both people have to choose it freely.

With a separation or divorce, it is rare for both people to have exactly the same timing.  If you are the person who is ahead, you may simply need to give the other person more time.  It may be helpful to tell the other person that you want to mediate when they are ready.

How long will the mediation take?

Generally, mediation takes only a few months, while attorney-driven divorce can take years.  The number of mediation sessions you will need depends upon the complexity of your situation, the degree of conflict between you, and your emotional readiness to end the conflict.  Most mediators estimate 2-5 sessions.

What will it cost?

A mediated divorce will typically cost four figures, compared to five figures for an attorney-negotiated divorce, or six figures for a litigated divorce.  Rivertown Mediation fees are competitive.

What are your hours?

Hours are by appointment.  Limited Saturday hours are available.

What happens if it doesn’t work?

Mediation is a voluntary process.  Either of you may terminate or suspend the mediation at any time for any reason.  The mediator may also terminate the mediation if she has a compelling reason to believe that agreement is not possible.  We can discuss other processes that are available to you.

Do I have to do the budget forms?

Yes.  If you are separating or divorcing, presenting your financial needs is essential to the mediation process.  If you do not present your financial needs, they cannot be addressed properly.  A good agreement has to address both of your financial needs.

Do I have to provide financial documentation?

Yes.  If you are separating or divorcing, full disclosure is essential for informed decision making.  Informed decision making is necessary for a durable agreement.

 

 

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